My name is Bob Schwenkler.

Sensitive Men and High Performing Women work with me to create…

Epic sex lives and relationships.

Heart-aligned and prosperous businesses.

Deeper inner peace.

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Why Your Sex Life is Just the Canary in the Coal Mine

Written by on April 25, 2017

So many men focus on the state of their sex lives as a pain point, but what many of us don’t get is that the quality of our sex is just an indicator for something deeper.

Although the physical act of sex is something we definitely yearn for, after talking to hundreds of men and women about their sex lives the deepest recurring desire is for deep emotional intimacy.

Sex is just the canary in the coal mine.

If the bird is dying you don’t spend time trying to revive the bird, you get to the underlying root cause: The noxious, invisible fumes filling up the mine shafts.

By the same token, if your sex life is anything other than vibrant and joyful it’s a sign that there are stuck and noxious emotions keeping you from the level of intimacy you want. To get back to a vibrant sex life the pain, resentments, witholds, and shame all need to be cleared out.

What makes this whole process even more challenging and painful is that as men we too often try to go it alone. Trying to do this work alone is suicide for any man’s sex life or relationship. It simply will not work. Going it alone is NOT a sign of strength. You know what takes true strength and balls? Vulnerability.

When we introduce vulnerability into the process the shame and pain get cleared out and released. Gone.

Then, like pure, clean water flowing back into a bottle that had the muck sprayed out, intimacy will automatically make its way back into the relationship.

That’s the game. Easy in theory, oftentimes a bit more difficult to implement in practice, and always deeply rewarding.

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The Truth of God

Written by on April 10, 2017

Hell is not some abstract place under the ground that we get sent to when we’re bad. Hell is alive and well here on earth, in the hearts and minds of men and women all across the world. You included.

When Tragedy Strikes

Written by on January 7, 2017

What do you say to someone when they’ve experienced a tragedy? Have you ever felt unsure what to say? Have you ever let that stop you from reaching out to them? My sister’s best friend’s brother killed himself just a

How to Sell With Integrity

Written by on December 27, 2016

There are a lot of messages out there in the world about what it takes to build a thriving coaching practice. If you’re a coach, and if your Facebook feed is anything like mine you scroll through ad after ad (after

Taking a Stand Against Sexism

Written by on December 17, 2016

What does it mean to take a stand against sexism when doing so could get me hurt or killed? I’d made eye contact with the two women sitting just down the metro from me. My seat was at the end