Bob Schwenkler

Be So Good They Can’t Ignore You…

Written by on February 11, 2016

Steve Martin once shared his “secret” to his success: What I always tell them, and nobody ever takes note of it because it’s not the answer they wanted to hear… What I always say is “Be so good they can’t

Why I Chose to Support a Man Accused of Sexual Harassment

Written by on February 4, 2016

I ran across a story in the media recently, about a man who’s been accused by a number of women in his industry for sexually harassing them. Within a few days he’d resigned as president of the company, the company dissolved, and

How to be a Trustworthy Man

Written by on August 5, 2015

You’re not trustworthy. Acknowledge this and you’ll be set free. How many times in your life have you said you’d do something and then didn’t? I’m not just talking about the things you told someone else you would do for them.

An Open Letter to the Total Stranger I Gave a $100 Bill to Last Weekend

Written by on May 23, 2015

Dear woman who I gave a $100 bill to last weekend, It took me five minutes to get the nerve up to approach you. I felt so vulnerable in that moment, for some reason. I told you that I’d been

Goodbye. Hello.

Written by on February 8, 2015

Tonight’s a good night to release. A decade and change ago I was a living dead person, a hollow shell of a man. In a letter my friend wrote me nearly 13 years ago tonight: “I am scared you will

When Yes Doesn’t Actually Mean Yes

Written by on October 5, 2014

I’ve started thanking people when they say “no” to me. Potential clients, friends, people I’d like to interview for www.reclaimingmalerolemodels.com, people who’s houses I’ve asked to stay at… It feels really good to me. No is an extremely powerful stance

Giving the Shoes Off Our Feet

Written by on September 12, 2014

I carried my $1500 laptop in its case as I walked toward the dinner place in Salt Lake last night. I felt a little bit safer about bringing it with me than I did leaving it in the car at

Shame, Sex, and Suicide: My Path to Open-Heartedness

Written by on August 14, 2014

[Originally published on The Huffington Post] At one point in my life I was nearly a dead man. Not by someone else’s hand, but by my own. It was practically an accident that I survived my second year of college,

I am the Schoolyard Killer

Written by on June 9, 2014

Isla Vista, Seattle Pacific University, Columbine, Virginia Tech, Sandy Hook, University of Texas…… I know these killers, these men, intimately. This will probably be surprising to anyone who knows me. I doubt that anybody has looked into my eyes and truly

The Conference for Men ruined my life – Here’s how

Written by on May 2, 2014

My life will never be the same. All thanks to Mike Hrostoski. When I bought my ticket for The Conference for Men I sort of had an idea that this might sort of happen. But I sort of didn’t expect