Bob Schwenkler

Viewing: Emotional Fluency

The Truth of God

Written by on April 10, 2017

Hell is not some abstract place under the ground that we get sent to when we’re bad. Hell is alive and well here on earth, in the hearts and minds of men and women all across the world. You included.

When Tragedy Strikes

Written by on January 7, 2017

What do you say to someone when they’ve experienced a tragedy? Have you ever felt unsure what to say? Have you ever let that stop you from reaching out to them? My sister’s best friend’s brother killed himself just a

How I Discovered My Purpose

Written by on August 2, 2016

Advisory: This article gets real in its description of my experience of death and suicide. If you’d rather not go there today you might be better off with something different. ____________ This might surprise a lot of people to hear, but for most of

Why I Chose to Support a Man Accused of Sexual Harassment

Written by on February 4, 2016

I ran across a story in the media recently, about a man who’s been accused by a number of women in his industry for sexually harassing them. Within a few days he’d resigned as president of the company, the company dissolved, and

When Yes Doesn’t Actually Mean Yes

Written by on October 5, 2014

I’ve started thanking people when they say “no” to me. Potential clients, friends, people I’d like to interview for www.reclaimingmalerolemodels.com, people who’s houses I’ve asked to stay at… It feels really good to me. No is an extremely powerful stance

I am the Schoolyard Killer

Written by on June 9, 2014

Isla Vista, Seattle Pacific University, Columbine, Virginia Tech, Sandy Hook, University of Texas…… I know these killers, these men, intimately. This will probably be surprising to anyone who knows me. I doubt that anybody has looked into my eyes and truly

How to Become a Leader

Written by on April 24, 2014

Something really important changed for me last night. My body released something that’s been with me for a long, long time. It feels like it’s been with me since I was just a couple months old. I’m so thankful for

Someday Those We Love Will Die so Let’s Just Love

Written by on March 21, 2014

I’m in a hospital right now. Hospitals are places I’m not used to. Door after door with curtains drawn in front of them. Inside each is someone’s son or daughter. Many of them are also someone’s father or mother. I’m

What Does Your Heart Say?

Written by on March 7, 2014

Emotional fluency. Men aren’t taught it, exactly. We’re taught a lot of things, but noticing what sensations are happening in, say, our chest is not one of them. We’re not taught to pay attention to whether it feels open or

Men Cry

Written by on March 3, 2014

I talked to a counselor this week and he told me that 80% of his male clients cry at some point during their time together. When he asks them when the last time they cried was he said that 80%