Bob Schwenkler

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Why I Chose to Support a Man Accused of Sexual Harassment

Written by on February 4, 2016

I ran across a story in the media recently, about a man who’s been accused by a number of women in his industry for sexually harassing them. Within a few days he’d resigned as president of the company, the company dissolved, and

How to be a Trustworthy Man

Written by on August 5, 2015

You’re not trustworthy. Acknowledge this and you’ll be set free. How many times in your life have you said you’d do something and then didn’t? I’m not just talking about the things you told someone else you would do for them.

Shame, Sex, and Suicide: My Path to Open-Heartedness

Written by on August 14, 2014

[Originally published on The Huffington Post] At one point in my life I was nearly a dead man. Not by someone else’s hand, but by my own. It was practically an accident that I survived my second year of college,

I am the Schoolyard Killer

Written by on June 9, 2014

Isla Vista, Seattle Pacific University, Columbine, Virginia Tech, Sandy Hook, University of Texas…… I know these killers, these men, intimately. This will probably be surprising to anyone who knows me. I doubt that anybody has looked into my eyes and truly

The Conference for Men ruined my life – Here’s how

Written by on May 2, 2014

My life will never be the same. All thanks to Mike Hrostoski. When I bought my ticket for The Conference for Men I sort of had an idea that this might sort of happen. But I sort of didn’t expect

I’m Selfish…

Written by on March 23, 2014

I want something from you and I’m doing my best to get it from you. Yes, you. Reading this blog post. I worked to get you to this website. I’m selfish and that’s the reason you’re here.   Guess what

What Does Your Heart Say?

Written by on March 7, 2014

Emotional fluency. Men aren’t taught it, exactly. We’re taught a lot of things, but noticing what sensations are happening in, say, our chest is not one of them. We’re not taught to pay attention to whether it feels open or

Men Cry

Written by on March 3, 2014

I talked to a counselor this week and he told me that 80% of his male clients cry at some point during their time together. When he asks them when the last time they cried was he said that 80%